I’ll never forget the first time I went away with my (now) boyfriend. We had only been dating for about 6 weeks, and we went on a long weekend trip to Cape Cod. He came from Manhattan to Connecticut right after work, where I was to scoop him up in my car to begin our journey. When I pulled up to the train station, I realized he had arrived with only the clothes on his back. I repeat: Four day trip, with only the clothes on his back.

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Celebrate Friday with Things That Don’t Suck

I’m a pretty positive person, but this week was particularly hellish. To keep our spirits up, and anticipate all the great things we have to look forward to, my friend C and I exchanged a series of emails of Things That Don’t Suck. Here are some things we came up with. Feel free to add some more in the comments section! And happy Friday!

  1. Tough Mudder
  2. Virginia Roadtrip, Part 4: The Passion of the Gaga
  3. Screaming as loud as you can
  4. Bonnaroo
  5. Summer is coming, and my car roof is staying off
  6. Tequila tastes better in the sun
  7. Zucchini the cat
  8. Planning big life moves
  9. Dogs hanging out of car windows
  10. Manparts
  11. Toes in grass
  12. Toes in sand
  13. Toes anywhere but shoved in uncomfy work shoes
  14. A too-much-sun-and-booze induced coma
  15. More tattoos
  16. CAKE the band…but also CAKE the pastry…
  17. Making cookies and eating dough while they bake #instant gratification
  18. Snuggling
  19. Puppy breath in my face
  20. Planning vacations
  21. Tax return money
  22. Whiskey tea
  23. A big blue sky
  24. Silly voicemails
  25. Spending a grossly irresponsible amount of money on live music
  26. Laughing until liquids come out of your nose
  27. Staying up to see the sunrise
  28. My favorite fire escape in Brooklyn
  29. A full belly
  30. A sweat inducing dance party
  31. A cup of coffee on a lazy sunday
  32. A rainy day and a book
  33. Cookie dough by the pint OMNOMNOM
  34. A post-run high
  35. Hiking Mt Washington!!
  36. Daydreams
  37. Real dreams
  38. The smell of library books
  39. Shenanigans
  40. Love, which is lovely
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There is something about being on vacation that automatically kicks up the heat in bed, regardless if you’re spending time sunning yourself on the beach, hitting the slopes for a winter getaway, snuggling up with your honey or flying solo with a group of friends. There are a ton of reasons why sex on vacation seems to top any other kind of sex. You’re dealing with less stress, and while some people have sex to deal with stress, there are others who find stress the ultimate libido killer. Less stress? More sex.

If you’re traveling with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you’re most likely trying new things, from exotic food to extreme sports. This kind of adventure revs up a new kind of excitement, comparable to the hot-flushy feelings that you used to get when you and your significant other were first dating.This means you will revert back to your I-just-cant-keep-my-hands-off-you status, that nice honey-moon bliss stage that occurs with initial attraction.Maybe you are discovering a new passion or talent you never knew that you possessed (the balance for surfing/endurance for mountain biking, etc).  Maybe you are learning something new about your guy/girl (look how cute his butt looks ahead of me on a hiking trail).  Either way, trying new things together outside of bed most certainly raises your level of confidence, and encourages spending more time trying new things in bed, too.

Vacation sex may also seem phenomenal because it gets you out of your day-to-day routine, allowing you more time to choose what you want to do, not what you have to do.This allows you to give yourself permission to spend an extra hour in bed in the morning, or the option to run back to your hotel room for a quickie with your guy after lunch. Would you rather spend some quality time in bed than go snorkeling? You can do it, because there is no boss to call, no pissy clients, no pressing deadline. Vacation allows you to do what you want, when you want (and who you want).

For any sexhibitionists out there, vacation allows you a plethora of new spots to get it on, from the privacy of your hotel room to a ton of new semi-public spots. Get busy on the beach (make sure to lay a towel down first or you’ll end up with a crotch full of sand..), try sharing one sleeping bag while camping, or sneak away from your tour group to do a little sightseeing of your own.

For those of us who are single, vacation is especially exciting when it comes to meeting new people. Being in a new place allows you to go out of your comfort zone and do things you may not normally do, from being gutsy and approaching someone in a bar, or trying a bold new trick in bed. Vacation allows you to reinvent yourself, because you will most likely never see that person again. However,  this can also be very risky. How many horror spring break stories have you heard about abductions and disappearances? While it may seem like an awesome idea to go home with that guy you met in Cancun, you should probably rethink it. I have a friend who has a particularly startling story (although I suppose it is amusing now) about waking up naked in a shed in Croatia…

With the economy being as awful as it is, and everyone’s wallets feeling a bit lighter than usual, you shouldn’t have to go on vacation to reap the benefits of super hot vacation sex. Have a staycation instead. Take a Sunday and turn off your blackberry, grab your honey, and promise not to get out of bed til the alarm buzzes Monday morning. Try something new (ballroom dancing, a cooking class) to rekindle that new-romance kind of passion. Take a group of your friends to a new bar a few towns over and create alter egos for yourselves, or make a bet on who can score the hottest guy/girl by the end of the night. (I wouldn’t suggest actually going home with a stranger however, because I watch wayyy too much Law and Order SVU to condone that kind of behavior…get their number and meet up some other time.)

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