So your live-in partner doesn’t eat like you? Bummersauce. What’s a vegan (gluten-free, dairy-free, paleo or nut-free) to do?

Sharing a space with someone who is very different than you can be frustrating, but when food is involved, it can get even stickier. If you’ve ever found cheese in your tofu drawer or come home to a surprise fridge full of meat, then you know what I’m talking about. Food is emotional, sentimental, and important. And, if you’re someone set in your ways, well change is scary!

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Fall is well underway, with winter already whispering frosty sweet nothings late at night. In case you didn’t know, fall and winter are the official cuffing season, so many single-folk are looking for someone to cozy-up with through the holidays.

If you’re a single vegan, then you already know that finding another single vegan who you are mutually attracted to can be seriously tough. While not all vegans are adamant about dating another veg-head, some wouldn’t even consider going to dinner—let alone bed—with someone who eats meat. If that sounds like you, then here are 4 tips for finding another vegan, excerpted from The Lusty Vegan, co-written by myself and Chef Ayinde Howell and available now wherever books are sold.

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Hey there SexyTofu readers . I have super huge news! My writing partner/bossman/good friend vegan chef Ayinde  Howell and I are extremely excited to officially be able to announce that our book, The Lusty Vegan, A Cookbook and Dating Manifesto for Vegans and The People Who Love Them, will be released in the fall of 2014!

Part cookbook, part lifestyle book, The Lusty Vegan uses humor and great recipes to solve one of the biggest issues in the vegan community: you’re vegan, your partner is not. Or maybe you’re a vegan having a hard time finding another vegan to make a nice little veg-nest with. Locking down a compatible mate seems to be the largest problem within in the vegan community, making finding love–and keeping it–a little harder than it already is. How do we know? From experience, of course.

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I do believe this was the inspiration behind The Lonely Island’s “Jizz in my Pants”

Time for a Lusty Vegan reroute! This time, I’m talking about virginity!

This morning I Googled “Virginity” and under news, Lolo Jones was the first topic to come up—and the second, third, fourth, fifth and…you get it. In case you don’t know, the smokin’ hot track and field Olympian has made headlines lately because she is a 29 year old virgin saving herself until marriage.

What’s better than a foxy, fierce, talented athlete? One with a sense of humor—Jones has made jokes about how abstinence is harder than her Olympic training. Since touting her sexless status (on Twitter, no less…her followers jumped by 20,000 almost immediately) Jones has been trending. But it does bring up the idea of chastity, and of saving yourself until marriage.

Jones is religious, and also stated in her recent HBO interview that she thinks her virginity is a gift she should give her husband. While the mere idea of abstinence makes my lady parts extremely pissy, I think saving your virginity for marriage is awesome if that’s what you’re into.

For many people, the first time they had sex is extremely memorable—for better, or for worse. It reminds me of my favorite movie ever, Forrest Gump, when good ol’ Tom Hanks delivers the lines “You know it’s funny what a young man recollects? ‘Cause I don’t remember bein’ born. I don’t recall what I got for my first Christmas and I don’t know when I went on my first outdoor picnic. But I do remember the first time I made sweet sweet love…”

Yeah okay, I made that last bit up. Manipulating things until they serve my purpose is a hobby of mine. Continue reading…

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I hate you! And all of the buttons on your pants...

Time for a Lusty Vegan redirect! Check out my post on iEatGrass…here is a little excerpt to get you motivated.

“Screw you!”
“No, screw you!”
“I hate you!”
“I hate you, too!”
(sound of pants hitting floor)

Sound familiar? Sometimes, nothing is more exhilarating than a really intense angry-sex session. You know, the kind where you go from screaming at each other to tearing clothes off faster than you can say “teeth marks.” That hair-pulling, bottom-lip biting type of animalistic intensity is a terrific way to let off steam while at the same time, reconnecting. But is it healthy?

I think it can be, but it depends on the fight. I’ve always loved a good argument, from playful banter to serious heated debates. I also find a passionate man extremely attractive, even if he is passionately screaming at me…it’s a bit of a problem. However, I have learned over time that the type of argument you’re having weighs heavy on if make up sex is a healthy form of closure. If it’s a small problem that got blown out of proportion, sexing it out can be an excellent release, especially if you’ve already spent a bit of time screaming…er…talking about the problem. Did you get offended by something your partner said? Pissed they were late AGAIN for dinner? In that situation, then having make-up sex is a great way to slam the case closed.

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