A new porn site is brewing that, according to the creator, will inspire a new breed of more considerate lovers. Young men in particular, says MakeLoveNotPorn.tv founder British Oxford grad Cindy Gallop, are raised being fed a diet of hardcore sexual imagery and it’s stunting their growth in terms of actual intimacy. The new XXX site is supposedly going to portray more realistic love-making, “real world” sex, and less demeaning behavior.
But what is porn without demeaning behavior!? You may be wondering. The idea is that this will re-educate viewers about what sex—scratch that, love-making—should look like. According to Gallop, who at 52 frequently dates men decades her junior, most modern men have gotten the majority of their sexual education from hard-core porn and therefore have no idea what it means to be a giving lover.
According to the Observer, Gallop hopes her site will reform porn “so that young men don’t think that’s always the normal way of behaving in the bedroom and their girlfriends don’t have to pretend to like it.” Continue reading
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So how about Tennessee banning the mention of “Gateway Sexual Behavior?” from all sex ed classes?
Sort of like weed being the supposed gateway to heroin, Tennessee claims groping and crotch nuzzling are a direct entryway to rampid fuckery. A controversial bill is currently underway that would ban all teachers from teaching any “gateway” sexual activity. In fact, it suggests all teachers promote abstinence. Behind the bill are pro-marriage institutes, supposedly hoping teens will wait until marriage to have sex—the reason why people marry so much younger in the south, perhaps?
When I first heard about this bill I was horrified. We’re regressing! I thought. It’s 2012, people! I am posting photos of my sex toys on the Internet, and a couple hundred miles away they are banning the discussion of fingerblasting in the classroom? According to state representative John DeBerry in his testimony to the Tennessee House of Representatives, “Everybody knows there are certain buttons when you push them, certain switches when you turn them on, there’s no stopping, especially for undisciplined, untrained, untaught and unraised children who just want to feel affection from somebody or anybody.”
Oh goodness, this is disgusting on so many levels. Continue reading
I thought I would publish a couple of questions I received from a reader (ooh! A reader!) recently, as I felt they deserve addressing. This reader and I have a nice little banter going back and forth about a variety of things. She keeps me updated on her love-life and I dole out suggestions about sex toys. Here are a few of her most recent queries.
Q: I’m now dating my friends with benefits guy. He has mentioned anal sex a few times in passing. He made it out like everyone’s doing it. My best friend said she tried it and it was the worst feeling in the world. Any advice?
A: Ooooh anal sex, you are not my friend! Haha. Your mancandy is not right, not everybody is doing it, unless by everybody he means everybody on his RedTube que. Have you watched RedTube? Good stuff. I digress… I do have a few girlfriends who love anal sex. If you are interested in trying it, I would suggest having your friend start with a finger (or two) and see how you like it. If it hurts badly, well then anything larger will hurt even more! Make sure to lube the fingers up, and also make sure once they have been in your unholy hole they don’t go anywhere near your ladycave, or else you will probably get an infection. Yucko. One trick to avoid this is to have him use right hand for one hole, left hand for the other, so as to not get confused as to which finger went where.
Q: I know shaven is in style but I just trim. My boyfriend/friend with benefits hasn’t said anything. Are there any advantages to being shaven in the bedroom?
A: Shaving everything (on either sex) makes you look pre-pubescent. Hair is normal. That being said, trimming is considerate. Think of your sex bits as your bedroom. If you know someone is coming over, you probably straighten up a little bit so you don’t look like a slob, and so your guest feels comfortable and wants to spend some quality time with their face buried in your, I mean….hanging out. But do whatever makes you feel comfy and confident. And don’t get your pube primping tips from porn stars…as a general rule, I don’t trust anyone who voluntarily bleaches their asshole.
Have any questions for me to publicly address? Email them to sexytofublog (at) yahoo.com.