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Today is National Fetish Day! The third Friday of the year! In celebration, I am sharing an interview with a trampler. That is, a lovely lady who is married to a man with a trampling fetish. While the interviewee is not exactly a fetishist herself, she is the boot-wearer! Ahhh, the things we do for love! Kidding–sounds like she doesn’t exactly mind her hub’s shoe and trample fetish. Read on as I talk to Yvonne, a vegan with an extensive boot collection she has dubbed “bedroom boots.” Of course, her boots are vegan, too!

ST:Okay so you say your hubby has a shoe and trampling fetish? So he likes when you both wear hot shoes, and when you walk on him?
Yvonne: Yup! He’s pretty specific actually—he likes it best if he’s stark naked and I’m all dolled up with the cherry on top being a pair of boots. I mean like serious boots.  I have maybe 1 pair that I could wear out on the street if I really wanted, but all the rest are pretty much like stripper boots with giant platforms, or pleather with spike heels that go thigh-high.  These are dedicated bedroom boots that we have specifically for that. He picked most of em out, and I gave the final yea or nay vote.  I should also clarify that he’s below me masturbating pretty much the whole time.

Hot. Bedroom boots! Love that term. So how did he first introduce his fetish to you?
Gosh, it’s been so long now I can’t really remember…. I know that when we first started dating years ago he complimented a pair of 40′s-style wedges I had on, and I had a side thought that maybe he didn’t play for my team, ha!. Then over the course of our relationship I got to know what he prefers—he hates flats, likes heels over wedges, and boots more than anything.  Obviously I’ll wear whatever the hell I want, but it’s nice to know what turns him on when we go on a date so I can make a little effort when I pick an outfit.  I honestly can’t remember when he asked me to step on him while wearing boots, but I think we might have had a very frank conversation about what turns us on in the bedroom and he came right out and said it.

Were you open to it?
Totally!  Nothing unsanitary is involved and it’s consensual, so I was down.  Er…. up.

Now you say this is mostly his fetish; do you like it at all, or is it just getting him off that gets you off?
I do like being able to demand that he do anything I want and be a real bitch- sometimes it actually helps me vent my frustrations. At times it does get a bit repetitive, almost like a couple doing the same missionary-style thing over and over.  But we’ve found ways to change it up or do things different, and it also depends on what kind of mood I’m in.  His big thing is that he doesn’t want to do it unless I’m into it too, which is great.  I have to say my favorite part is when he climaxes, and I LOVE watching him from up above. So it’s basically 100 percent his thing, but I do get a little something out of it. As far as it turning me on, it doesn’t really.

What is his favorite kind of shoe for you to put on?
Boots!  Done.  Next question!

Hah alright then. On what part of his body to you walk?
Mostly I just stand over him and use one of my legs to poke and prod, but occasionally I’ll take a few steps on him, usually on his upper thighs, stomach, or chest.  I’ll also kick him, and he likes it when I demand he do things like massage my legs or kiss the bottom of the boot.

Do you walk on him with the shoes on only, or are you ever barefoot?
I don’t think I’ve ever done it barefoot, haha.

Have you ever left stiletto punctures on him?
Yea, I’ve left little bruises and marks before.  I saw them the next day and honestly got a little worried, but he said he was fine and that he liked it because it reminded him of how it got there and consequently turned him on.

Trampling can be a bit sadomasochistic, especially if you get into stomping. How far do you take it?
We really don’t take it too far, although I do have some whips and things from the early days, but I haven’t used those in a while and it doesn’t turn him on that much.  We’re like “BDSM-lite.”

BDSM-lite, that’s great. Fluffy! Anything else I should know about the fetish?
We’ve done a whole variety of things in the past like acted out scenes, or sometimes I’ll dance, which can be dangerous depending on what pair I have on.  I’ve rolled my ankle more than a few times, but no serious injuries! His newest thing is he likes to watch me get ready and put on makeup.

Wanna talk about your fetish? Leave it in the comments! Want to be interviewed for Fetish Friday? Email me at Sexytofublog (at) yahoo! Do it.

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Happy friday, sexyfood faces! Today you’re in for a bit of potty-talk, because this FF post is about watersports, and I’m not talking polo. In case you don’t smell what I’m steppin’ in, let me refer you to the Urban Dictionary definition.

 Watersports

In BDSM terminology, refers to sensual or erotic play involving bodily fluids, typically urine, saliva, and less commonly, blood. Considered ‘edge-play’, because it is obviously somewhat unhygienic.

Ex: Most of the Mistresses that he found online were willing to do watersports.

No judgments here—whatever gets your pot saucy is just fine by me. The fetishist I interviewed is a 21 year old veg-headed female fluent in two languages with a passion for video games and art. (I always feel like I am auctioning off dates when I do that…) I’m gonna call her P. Teheheheh.

ST: So, tell me how you got into your fetish.
P: About 2 or 3 years ago, my then-boyfriend brought it up. It was something he saw in porn and thought might be fun to try out. I was reluctant at first, but I felt great that he opened up to me about it, meaning he trusted me. So I decided to give it a try. Turned out I liked it even more than he did!

What exactly about it turns you on?
There’s a lot of really hot aspects of watersports. One of it is, of course, just the feeling of urine. It’s really warm and actually feels good on skin. It’s also fun as part of domination-submission play.

Do you like to be the giver or the receiver?
I like both. As I said, I like it integrated in domination-submission play, so whoever is the top in the session is the giver.

How do you bring up your fetish to a new sexual partner?
It’s good to be open and all my partners know that they can talk freely about their fetishes to me, and that I can talk to them about mine. Usually, towards beginning of the sexual relationship, after a few vanilla encounters of course, I decide it’s time to talk about turn ons and then, I bring it up together with other fetishes.

Have your partners been pretty open to it? Have you ever had a negative experience with it?
Most have been. I never pressure anyone into doing something they don’t want, and I give them time to decide when to do it, if they want to. Did every partner agree to it? Of course not. But even if he doesn’t share the fantasies, it’s still likely he’s willing to try. As for negative experiences, yes, there have been some, mostly from lack of communication. For example, one guy once thought I was into drinking urine, but I’m not. So, unwillingly, I’ve had my taste of it.

I’m guessing you usually play in the shower or tub for easy clean-up?
Yes, showers, tubs, or even outside. Although one of my partners, who shared the fetish, invested into one of those waterproof sheet covers, so you can take the watersports into the bedroom. But either way, some cleaning afterwards is inevitable.

Share P’s passion for waterpsorts? Wanna talk about your own fetish? Let me know!

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Oh hey Fetish Friday! I am excited to have interviewed a lady fetishist for this post…a fetishista? This woman, whom I will call Beth, has an erotic asphyxiation fetish, also sometimes referred to hypoxyphilia. While some asphyxiation fetishists fly solo—often using semi-dangerous methods of self strangulation—this particular lady only enjoys being asphyxiated with a partner. This means that during sex she likes to restrict the oxygen to her brain, usually by being choked or otherwise having pressure put on her neck. A social fetishist!

As John Curra wrote in The Relativity of Deviance, “The carotid arteries (on either side of the neck) carry oxygen-rich blood from the heart to the brain. When these are compressed, as in strangulation or hanging, the sudden loss of oxygen to the brain and the accumulation of carbon dioxide can increase feelings of giddiness, light-headedness, and pleasure, all of which will heighten masturbatory sensations.”

 Fun fact, before we begin: autoerotic asphyxiation was used as a treatment for erectile dysfunction in the 17th century! It came about when it was noted that often those who were executed by hanging had a party goin’ on in their pants. Thanks, Wikipedia!

Z: Thanks for talking with me. Let’s start with you telling me a bit about how you got into asphyxiation.
B: Well when I was younger I played this game with my friends where we would make each other pass out by putting pressure on our arteries.
Z: I played that all the time at summer camp! We would be all, “hey you wanna faint?” Right before you went down you got all blissfully light headed.
B: Exactly. That sort of stuck in my head and I as I got older I got off on being choked. Mostly it’s for the head rush, but I also like the submissive aspect.
Z: Do you ever do the choking?
B: No, never. My husband likes doing it to me, but has never asked for me to return the favor.
Z: So you’re the gasper.
B: The what?
Z: The gasper! The chokee. That’s what they are called.
B: Really? I didn’t know that.
Z: Yep. It can be really dangerous. Lots of people die from autoerotic asphyxiation. Do you have a code signal or word just in case?
B: We do, yes, a hand signal. But we have never had to use it…Most of the deaths come from masturbation, I think. They pass out. We never take it that far, it’s mostly for the rush.
Z: And you never go at it alone? No plastic bag over the head for you?
B: Oh, no way! It’s a group sport. For me at least (laughs).
Z: Have you ever hallucinated? I remember from my fainting days some kids claimed to hallucinate right before passing out.
B: Things have gotten a bit spotty but  we stop before any hallucinating. Nope, no hallucinating.
Z: But it does intensify your orgasm?
B: Without a doubt. They are more intense, and easier to achieve too. Faster and harder.
Z: Well, I see why your hubby is game then.
B: Yeah, it’s a win-win all around. I get to come harder, he gets to play tough guy. It works for us.
Z: And it’s something you do every time you have sex? Or is it like, once in a while, or on special occasions…like the nice lacy lingerie of bedroom moves?
B: Pretty much every time.
Z: Never gets old?
B: Do extremely intense orgasms get old?
Z: Good point. Touché…Well, alright, thanks for talking to me! Very interesting, and hopefully no one will read this and go string themselves up from their closets in search of a super intense orgasm.
B: Let’s hope not. No law-suits!

Did you read that? No law-suits! Interested in having me harass, er, interview you about your sex life? Get at me!

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TGIFF! This week I am covering the love of feet. Foot fetishism, or podophelia, is actually the most common form of fetishism for a non-sexual object or body part. To get an inside perspective,  I talked with a philosophy loving proggy-rocker in his early 20s who has what he labeled as a “mild” foot fetish. I let him pick his own pseudonym , and he chose Tom Thumb. Read on as Tom and I talk about Pavlovian responses, socks and foreplay. Now there’s a teaser if I ever heard one…

Z: Okay first just tell me some general info about your fetish, and how it started.

T : Well I guess it all started when I went to college. I had a girlfriend I would give foot rubs to and that’s how most of our sexual activity together would start.

Z : Oh, so it was like a segue activity? You were conditioned, Pavlovian style. So then is it only touching feet that gets you worked up, or looking too?’

T : Yeah it was sort of our pre foreplay activity.

At first I think it was more of me giving her a foot rub and then seeing her getting off on it. We were together for a few years so this happened pretty frequently. Then after we split up it was always a topic of conversation that would somehow be brought up with any other relationship that I got into.  

Z : Well, do the feet have to be pretty? I mean, I’m a runner and I have some pretty scary feet…just sayin’.

T : Yes the feet have to be pretty. In my opinion I would prefer the feet to be somewhat pretty, because it usually leads to a pretty nice pair of legs.

Z : So if they have gnarly feet, it’s a no-go.

T : Yeah no one likes to be around haggard set of feet. I think it’s going to be a turn off for just about anybody whether they have a foot fetish or not.

Z : Perhaps, unless they have an ugly foot fetish. Ever weird anyone out with your foot-lust?

T : Haha…No it doesn’t usually get to that point. It’s just sort of something that comes up in passing and if they’re cool with it, then I’ll persist further. If they’re not, it’s no biggie.

I’ll tell you what though, I did have a girlfriend once who would refuse to take off her socks. Needless to say, that relationship did not get so far.

Z : What kind of bat-shit crazy girl is going to pass up a dude who wants to rub her feet?

T : Well that’s why I often bring it up, and if she is into it, well then I guess it works out for both of us. And if we end up in bed together then it really worked out well for us.

Z : Right on. Anything else I shoot know how your freaky foot love?

T : Yeah I wouldn’t mind the occasional foot rub there. This shit goes both ways you know?

Z : So you like people to touch your feet, too! Did your ex that started it off touch your feet?

T : Yeah, I guess there is a very strong mental connection that builds up when rubbing feet leads to fellatio, cunnilingus, or any other assorted sexual activity.

Z : Pavlovian!

T : Absolutely!

Z : Okay so, because you find feet sexual, would you not touch the feet of anyone who you wouldn’t find sexual? For instance, if your mom/sister/cousin asked for a foot massage, would you say no because to you, that’s like your mom/sister/cousin asking if they could felate you?

T : Pretty much.

Z : And if a girl gets a pedicure, is that sort of like her getting a bikini wax or some crotchless panties? Like a pre-mating ritual?

T : Yeah, I guess you could say that.

Z : Verryyy interesting. Thanks for talking with me about feet!

Do you have a fetish you want to talk about? Do you also love feet? Hate feet? I want to know! Leave it in the comments or shoot it over to sexytofublog (at) yahoo.com. Oh, and follow me on Twitter, @sexytofublog . DO IT.

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(or get turned into a lamp shade)

I promise you can click on any of these links and it won’t take you to any xxx sites.  Although that would be a fun joke–perhaps I am lying to you! Can you really trust me when  my most trusted resources are Urban Dictionary and Wikipedia?

Recently I was talking to a friend who was seriously bashing the guy she was seeing who had a fetish that was a bit, erm, out of the ordinary.  I got a little prickly with my friend for hating on him. Don’t get me wrong; there are some really weird fetishes out there. Aside from your typical BDSM variety—choking, bondage, spanking—there is your creepy crawleys, your act-like- an-animal and other role playing, dude-looks-like a ladying. Then there is just the unexplainable—pedal pumping, looning, trampling. There are fetishes for those who watch too many zombie flicks (vorarephelia), and even a fetish for making someone else cry (dacryphilia). And then there is stitophelia—attraction to food. I think I may have once been attracted to a cupcake. I can’t be sure because I ate it before things got too heavy. Basically if you can think of it, there is porn for it. I dare you to prove me wrong.

The fetish my friend was bashing on wasn’t even that off color. They weren’t talking about turning people into furniture or lubing up each other’s feet. I told my friend she should be appreciative that her guy even feels close enough to her to show her what he likes, instead of spending hours on the internet, or finding someone freakier behind her back. Repressed fetishes—if they are extreme enough—can do some mental damage. They can mess with your self image (“I’m such a freak for liking this”), or worse. I would rather have a guy admit he imagines eating people than actually go out and hack up someone and simmer their organs in white wine. As long as he wasn’t really trying to masticate me, we could play kitchen. Whatever. A repressed fetish can be a dangerous thing, regardless of if the repression is turned in or out.

I’m not saying you should go along with someone else’s fetish just to avoid alienating them. Don’t do anything you are not comfortable with, but try and at least see where they are coming from, or at the very least refrain from wrinkling your nose, gasping in shock, or running out of the room screaming. How would you feel if you expressed something that turned you on, especially if you knew it was a bit bizarre, and you were met with disgust? I told my friend that if she really is turned off by her man’s fetish—she was pretty horrified—and they can’t find any common ground, then they should probably find other people to play with. Bedroom miscommunication is frustrating, to say the least.

With this in mind, I am going to be introducing Fetish Friday, where I will talk about a different fetish each week. I would like to find and interview people with different fetishes, while at the same time avoid getting turned into a lampshade. So if you have a fetish you want to talk about, anonymously of course, please get at me here.

Also, watch a live performance of my favorite Blind Melon song, which just so happens to be about turning people into furniture! Love those creeps.

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