You can see my excitement in opening the boxes here …
You can see my excitement in opening the boxes here …
I know, I know, it’s fall and that means barbecue season is over. But aside from being awesome to slather on your grill foods, barbecue sauce seems pretty autumnal to me. Full of molasses and rich tomatoey goodness, it’s hearty and if you add spice like I do, it’s hot! Capsaicin—the active ingredient in chilli peppers-revs your metabolism, flushes out toxins, and gives you that irresistible sweat-on-the-upper-lip look. Sexy kinda.
Long live the barbecue season is all I’m saying. I made this barbecue sauce with an abundance of hot pepper, thus the name “triple threat.” It’s a tangy sauce, not a smokey one, which means you can make it even if you don’t have any liquid smoke on hand. Woo! Also, it doesn’t take a lot of time to make, and it’s better for you than its sugary, salt-laden store bought counterpart. Triple win.
Triple Threat Barbecue Sauce
Time: 60 minutes | Yields: 3 Cups
You will need:
- 1 tablespoon coconut oil
- 1 medium-sized yellow onion, diced
- 3 cloves garlic, minced
- 28 ounces canned diced tomatoes
- 1 teaspoon red pepper flakes
- 1 minced fresh hot pepper, seeds removed
- 2 teaspoon smoked paprika
- ¼ teaspoon salt
- 1/3 cup molasses
- 2 tablespoons organic coconut sugar (traditional cane sugar will do if you must)
- 1/3 cup apple cider vinegar
- 2 teaspoons soy sauce
- 2 teaspoons prepared yellow mustard
Step two: Transfer to a small pot, add all other ingredients and cook, covered, on medium-low for 30 to 60 minutes. The longer you cook it, the richer and thicker it will get, but if you’re pressed for time, I understand.
This sauce is very versatile. I baked tofu in it and had it for dinner. The next day, I took the left-over tofu and wrapped it up with some baked kabocha squash and raw kale avocado salad. I mean, can you get more autumnal than that? I had left over sauce, which keeps in the fridge for up to a week and is perfect for marinading and dipping.
The Lusty Vegan: Three First Date Ideas That Don’t Involve Food In Your Teeth or Yelling in Crowded Bars11 Oct
Getting to know someone in a forced social setting is awkward. I’m talking about the dreaded D word here – dating. The typical date lineup is usually dinner and a movie, but neither of those activities are appropriate breeding grounds for comfort and/or stimulating conversation. During dinner, you are trying to juggle somewhat intelligent banter with clearing the spinach from your teeth. During a movie, well you aren’t talking at all, so you basically forked over a bunch of cash to sit next to a stranger for 90 minutes and at the end of the evening, they are still a stranger.
Millenials have an especially hard time with first-dates because we’re so used to communicating behind the buffer of a myriad of screens. We craft social interactions (and edit them) that make us look clever and never, ever, ever awkward. This makes us feel extremely vulnerable when out with someone new for the first time. Nope, there is no first-date filter on Instagram.
Also, this generation seems to be less interested in wasting time (or money. Sallie Mae is still on our backs!) with the wrong person. This is why online dating sites are so crafty about their match ups. Why waste your time getting to know someone who doesn’t watch American Horror Story, anyway?
My favorite first date combo is coffee and a walk, because it’s public, I love coffee and walking can lead to running in the other direction if they turn out to be a creeper. But for those struggling to find refreshing, non-traditional first-date opportunities, here are a handful that provide enough distraction so that they aren’t too awkward, but still allow you to get to know each other.
Go grocery shopping.
This was an idea from one of the members on our Lusty Vegan Facebook group, actually. (Thanks, Shane!) Food is important and filling up your carts together can tell you a whole lot about each other. If you’re vegan, this is especially important, because just about every grass-muncher I know is obsessed with food. Also it’s pretty cute and rom-com-esque. You may not get to talk too much during the grocery shop, so I guess it would be a good idea to grab coffee afterwards. If the date sucks, at least you got your grocery shop in. #multitask.
Go to a meet-up group together.
Sometimes going to a new meet-up group (rock climbing, running, face yoga—that’s a real thing you guys) can be nerve wracking by yourself. Trying something new together is always a fun way to get to know each other, and a meet-up group set up is cool because you’re immediately unified in the whole “we’re in this together” mindset, but at the same time, if your date is a total drag there are other people you can talk to.
Plus, even if the date doesn’t work out you’ve broken into a new social group or activity. Make sure it’s something new to both of you; Don’t be that jerk who takes a new date to a swing dance social where everyone else—including yourself—is a master and your date has to make an ass out of themselves all alone.
It’s fall. Pick some fruit or pumpkins.
Apple picking. Hay rides. Lots of flannel outfit options! Instafun, you guys. Date going well and you’re pretty convinced your new love interest is not a murderer? Go back to one of your places and make something out of your new score. Bake a pie or carve a jack-o-lantern. If the date isn’t going well, well at least you got a pumpkin out of it…
Okay, tell me what your go-to first date is, please. Or, tell me about the worst first date you’ve ever had.
I originally wrote this post for www.iEatGrass.com.
So you’re vegan, and your partner isn’t. Or maybe your an omnivore, or a vegetarian, and your partner is a vegan. Or maybe you’re an everything eater and your partner is gluten-free. Or maybe you’re gluten-free and your partner is allergic to nuts, or soy, or dairy, or…
See where I’m going with this? Sometimes our dietary restrictions (and ethical POVs) just don’t match up with the views of the people we like to spend our time with.
My boyfriend P and I were recently at our friend’s house for dinner. The couple we were eating with, let’s call them Sally and Sam, they were talking about a recent trip to the doctor that revealed that Sam was allergic to literally everything. Nuts, most beans, soy, wheat. All of the good stuff. We spent a solid twenty minutes lamenting Sam’s loss of the ability to enjoy a nice beer.
Sam is trying to eliminate these perpetrators from his diet to see what happens, and the pair was talking about how it’s affecting not only his body (allergies gone, stomach bloating gone, itchy rashes gone) but their relationship–mainly their cohabitation patterns at mealtime. Continue reading
There’s been quite a stir on the interwebz lately about the emergence of a vegan strip club! A what? Yep. A nude bar where all the food is vegan, all outfits being worn (and taken off) on stage are cruelty-free, and many of the dancers are meat-free as well. The club, Casa Diablo, is located in Portland. No real shocker there…
The news about the establishment broke when the Mayor of Newark (again, no shocker) started Tweeting one of Casa Diablo’s dancers, and it spiraled onward. Continue reading
Summer is over, and fall is here. The change of season can make you a little wonky; You’re just getting into that summertime routine and then BAM, days are short again and you need a jacket. When your schedule is out of whack, you may not be making the healthiest of choices, and your sex drive may suffer for it. Below are a handful of health-don’t's guaranteed to stall that “it’s chilly so let’s build a fire…a pants fire” feeling. Continue reading
Recently, I was texting an ex about a situation he was in with a new girlfriend. (Yes, I’m THAT ex-girlfriend). This particular guy is very experimental, and so far the sex with his new girl had been totally vanilla. Still in their fledgling stage of romance, he wasn’t sure when or how to pull his freak out card out.
“I really like her, and I don’t want to freak her out… I can barely muster up the courage to amp up the dirty talk,” he said, continuing with “let alone tell her about the dildo in my closet!” I feel your pain buddy.
In a new relationship, it can be a little nerve wracking to to open up about your sexual druthers. Before you’re in the sweat-pants-and-chinese-takeout phase of comfort, talking about your dom/sub preferences or your penchant for having sex in movie theatres can be a challenge. You don’t want to scare off your new boo, but you don’t want to wait 6 months before you find out that despite being attracted to them, you’re sexually incompatible.
So do you bring it up right away, or wait before letting your freak flag fly? Like the type A control freak that I am, I will break it down into options:
Bring it up right away
Okay, not right RIGHT away. My college roomie has a horror story of a douchenug who asked about her favorite sex position on their first date in the middle of an Outback Steakhouse. It was their only date, obviously. While this is a bad idea, if you’re already sleeping with someone, it can’t hurt to gently bring up the conversation of sexual fantasies and preferences with “hey have you ever thought about…” or “how would you feel if I…”
Get it out of the way as soon as you feel comfortable. I like to have these convos while still snuggled up, post-coitus. They usually go best if you begin with some flowery description about how amazing your partner is at oral sex/that position you like/finger ninja-ing.
Wait it out…
Waiting until you’re in a more serious—or at least semi-regular—thing can be good because it’s easier to be completely open with someone your totally comfortable with. You will feel less embarrassed about bringing things up, and they will probably be more open to whatever you mention, and more likely to share their own preferences in return.
However, the downfall of this is if they aren’t into whatever you mention at all, it will be a bummer because you’re already pretty into them. Even worse is if they’re totally turned off by it, or feel like the trust has been violated because you waited 6 months to tell them how you only get off if you think about fluffies. Sexy kinda.
There is no talk, there is only do
This is the other option. Don’t bring it up at all, just wait until you feel comfortable sexually and then go for it, physically. Put on those nurse’s scrubs you keep under the bed, or the 8 inch heels. Maneuver into that new position. Put your finger where your finger has not yet ventured! You do you.
However, these situations—where you offer no conversation or forewarning—have the potential to go really bad. For instance, I can only imagine my ex’s new girlfriend’s face when he wordlessly pulls a dildo out of his closet.
Okay, what option do you go with?
I originally wrote this article for my column on iEatGrass.com, The Lusty Vegan.
Summer is a sexy time. We show more skin, we’re generally in better moods, and the nights are warm enough to have sex outside… Maybe. If you want.
Alfresco preferences aside, here are some of the most epic love/sex news and trends that went down this summer.
Same-Sex Married Couples To Get Federal Tax Recognition Regardless Of State
Fuck yeah, equality! Yesterday, the U.S. Department of the Treasury announced that when it comes to taxes, it will recognize same-sex couples’ marriages even if they live in a state that does not. This is big big big news, so I had to include it, of course.
@ThatLooksLikeADick takes over Instagram Continue reading
Fall is nearly here. While it’s still balmy in Hawai’i, my East Coast heart must be able to feel the chill from 5000 miles away. Last week I was craving something hearty. Something…stewy. Something tomatoey. Here is what I came up with!
- 1 cup uncooked green lentils
- 2 cups veggie stock or water
- 1 tablespoon olive oil
- 1 medium yellow onion, diced small
- 1 small carrot, diced small
- 1 stalk celery, diced small
- 2 cloves garlic, minced
- 1 teaspoon oregano
- 1 teaspoon basil
- 1 teaspoon salt
- 8 oz can diced tomatoes
- 1/4 cup tomato paste
- 1/4 cup good red wine. (If you wouldn’t drink it, don’t cook with it.)
- 8 oz pasta. Choose your fav! Continue reading
Hey all. As you maybe know, I write about tofu and hand jobs on a few other sites aside from my own itty bitty blog, and one of them is xoJane.com, an amazing women’s lifestyle site that I adore. Last year I wrote on xoJane about how much I love my boyfriend P’s armpits, and the wacky chemicals called pheromones.
Someone over at ABC read it and asked to film me smelling him and talking about pheromones. I ignored their emails for 3 weeks because I thought it was spam. Whoops! Eventually they came over to P’s apartment when he was really hung over, and filmed him making his way from Brooklyn to Connecticut to visit me. Then they filmed us chillin at my apartment. Later, they had me choose his T-Shirt out of a slew of other dirty ones while a mildly offensive British host pretends we’re on a game show.
It was my first television experience, and a bizarre one overall, but I thought I would share it with you. The segment is on pheromone parties, and is only 8 or so minutes long. I’m at the end. The embed was being super fussy, so click the image and you’ll be redirected to the ABC site.