About the author  ⁄ Zoe

Zoe writes about food and sex on SexyTofu.com.

Fall is well underway, with winter already whispering frosty sweet nothings late at night. In case you didn’t know, fall and winter are the official cuffing season, so many single-folk are looking for someone to cozy-up with through the holidays.

If you’re a single vegan, then you already know that finding another single vegan who you are mutually attracted to can be seriously tough. While not all vegans are adamant about dating another veg-head, some wouldn’t even consider going to dinner—let alone bed—with someone who eats meat. If that sounds like you, then here are 4 tips for finding another vegan, excerpted from The Lusty Vegan, co-written by myself and Chef Ayinde Howell and available now wherever books are sold.

4 Tips For Finding Another Vegan to Date

So, you’re looking to meet a vegan, eh? One who is not going to alienate your family members at Thanksgiving with tales from the slaughterhouse. One who is a total kitchen wizard and knows that vegan cooking has evolved way past steaming raw veggies or molding nuts into a loaf. Seriously, you want a compassionate foodie that can flambé and sauté like a boss. Okay, maybe you will just settle for a big heart and winning smile and moderate microwaving skills.

If you’re a man looking for a vegan lady, you’ve got an easier road ahead of you, as there are more vegan girls out there. But even single vegan dudesters have been writing in to iEatGrass, inquiring how to meet a vegan lady—even ones in booming veg-friendly metropolises like Los Angeles!

So maybe you’re all prepped. You have a bedside table stocked with Sir Richard’s or Sustain condoms and cruelty free toys, yet you can’t find a plant-based playmate to share a magical evening with. What’s a lusty vegan to do? Here are a few tips on finding a vegan bed buddy, be it for a night of excitement, or a lifetime of spooning and vegan baby-making.


1. Stalk your local hot spots. 
If you’re still in the bar-hopping time of your life, then the obvious choice for meeting a mate is at a bar. But considering that bars are not the normal vegan hang-out, and you probably aren’t looking for an average man or woman (because vegans are sooo above average, helloo!) a bar probably is not your best shot. Unless of course, it’s a vegan bar! Those do exist in Brooklyn, and probably Austin, and maybe Portland. Anyway, what you need to do is head to a vegan-friendly hang out. This can differ depending on your location. A yoga studio with a raw juice bar probably attracts a heavy cruciferous crowd. A vegan-friendly coffee shop is also a good bet. Set up your computer or bring a good book and eye-stalk everyone that walks in the door. See something you like? Strike up a convo. Another tip? When you head to that vegan spot, wear that lucky “I Heart Kale” shirt, or even better, an “I Eat Grass” tee. That way, you’re easy to spot, and obviously very hip.

2. Spread the word. 
If you are really set on finding a vegan partner, tell everyone you know. I mean, everyone. You never know who has a cute single vegan co-worker or gym buddy. This is how my mother met her life partner. She started telling everyone she was on the lookout, and one of her friends happened to know a single, crunchy, outdoorsy dude from yoga. Ten years and two farms later, the pair is still adorably inseparable. If no one knows you’re looking, they can’t set you up. However, be specific in what you’re looking for. If you’re just looking for a one-night stand or short fling, it may be best not to date friends of friends, as things can quickly become more awkward than the time my birth-coach aunt cornered my boyfriend at a family party and started telling him what an amazing organ the vagina is.

3. Get involved.
 I know I am telling you to look look look for a vegan mate, but often you find someone when you’re not looking. Get involved with things in your community you’re passionate about, and you are more likely to find someone with similar interests. When you have the same routine (yoga, work, drinks in the same social circle) week after week, it’s hard to meet fresh faces. So, volunteer at a shelter, local community garden, or vegan organization. Even if you don’t meet someone datable there, you may make new friends (who could possibly set you up!) or at least get involved in a passion project and give back. Good karma points for you!

4. Get online.
 Online dating isn’t for everyone, but there are a good amount of online sources for vegans these days. There are also vegan speed dating events. Or, you don’t have to join a network specifically for singles; any vegan meet-up will do.

Looking for more?  The Lusty Vegan, A Dating Manifesto for Vegans and The People Who Love Them, written by Zoe Eisenberg and Ayinde Howell, is available wherever books are sold.

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Several weeks back, a friend asked me if I had seen “the grapefruiting video.” The wah?

“Well, you write about food and sex so I figured…” they said, trailing off.

As soon as I got home, I took to the internet to rustle up said video that supposedly involves sex with a grapefruit.

Behold, the grapefruit video, in which sexpert “Auntie Angel” teaches viewers how to “grape fruit your man,” a technique that involves cutting a hole in a grapefruit and getting your dude off with it. According to Angel in this Vice article, the technique is so good it could kill you. Death by grapefruiting!

Yes, this is a real thing. According to Auntie Angel, grapefruiting feels as if you’re getting head and having sex at the same time. Inttteresting. Okay, watch the video and wait for the best part – the sound effects!

In addition to the hoover noises, Angel gives good grapefruiting tips, like making sure the grapefruit is room temp, making sure you cut the hole the right size, and that your man is blindfolded before you get to fruit screwing.

After I watched the video (don’t forget to read the comments!), I couldn’t help but wonder if my manfriend would like it. He had been there when our friend told us about the video, and we watched it together, so I figured maybe…

I went out and got a bag of grapefruits. My man and I sat around and stared at them for a week. One night, I even went down to the kitchen and picked one up, gesturing to him playfully. But you guys, no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t bring myself to do my dude with a grapefruit. I mean, the whole catch-phrase of SexyTofu is “Sex and vegetables, not sex with vegetables,” and although a grapefruit is a fruit, not a veggie, it felt pretty damned close. I just felt so absolutely ridiculous and unsexy bringing that fruit to bed I could not do it. Sigh..

Luckily, I have at least a couple of friends, one of whom was able to coerce her boyfriend to partake. This friend asked her manfriend if he was up for it before she went grapefruit shopping, which seems considerate, but in actuality may have derailed the whole project. Since he knew what was coming (ha!), he gave less than stellar reviews. Mostly, that citrus juice kept dripping all over the place, that it was messy, that he couldn’t take it seriously, and that he couldn’t finish.

From my super scientific research, I have come to the conclusion that grapefruiting is only fun when it’s a surprise grapefruiting. When your man knows what citrusy surprise is awaiting him, the veil of illusion is lifted.

Still, I wonder the reaction of a formerly blindfolded man who just received what he thinks is the best blowie ever, only to remove his blindfold to a piece of fucking fruit. Maybe not too happy? So should you hide the fruit back under the bed and never speak of it? And—here’s another thought—what do you do with the grapefruit when you’re finished?

Whether you ask your partner first, or have a big reveal after you’re done grapefruiting, nothing is going to change the fact that from then on, you’re always going to be the girl who fucked them with a grapefruit…

Want more? My book, The Lusty Vegan, drops in only a few days! Pre-order your copy on Amazon or wherever books are sold.

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It’s official! The advanced copies of The Lusty Vegan book are here! Right this second, I have a fresh copy nestled into my lap, and I’m petting it like a kitten.

Even more exciting is the fantastic tour Ayinde and I are rolling out this fall. Our first stop? New York City of course.

On October 15 and 16—yep, that’s right, two nights!–we will be hosting a culinary art installation at Suite ThreeOhSix at 7:30 pm.

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A new cruelty-free condom recently rolled down the red carpet, joining the ranks of other ethical contraceptive powerhouses like Glyde and Sir Richard’s. The newest member of the cruelty-free condom marketplace, called Sustain, is not only cruelty-free but made from fair trade rubber and latex. Side note: The condoms were invented by New York-based father and daughter duo Jeffrey and Meika Hollender.

Familial entrepreneurship aside, what I like about the Sustain condom campaign is the fact that it targets women! It doesn’t merely market “her pleasure” or some bullshit (ribbed condom, studded condom – please, it still feels like fucking rubber), but it promotes female empowerment by encouraging ladies to take responsibility for their own condom consumption with the slogan “get on top and start f*cking naturally.” Can’t argue with that… To sweeten the pot, ten percent of profits go towards women’s reproductive health.

In talking to my girlfriends and just existing in today’s society in general, I often notice many assume that (in a hetero situation) it’s the guy’s job to carry a condom, and that any girl who carries or supplies a condom could be considered “easy.” This is a crazy notion; Anyone who wants to be in charge of their own sexual health by way of condoms should be stocking up on rubbers, and what better way to do it than with cruelty-free ones. That way, no matter where you go or who you’re with, you’ve got it covered – literally.

View the company’s ad, below:

She Thinks Her Vagina Deserves Only The Best. So That’s What She’s Giving It. from Sustain Condoms on Vimeo.

Want more? Find me on Instagram and Twitter, or check out my book, The Lusty Vegan.

*I originally wrote this post for www.ieatgrass.com. 

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There are some pretty interesting videos circling around the interwebz highlighting the much-spoken topic of vegans being better in bed.

Unfortunately this string of videos, done by the tuneless and terrifying John Sakars, are highly cringe-worthy. Sakars, an animal rights activist, has been making these for a couple of years now. As creeptastic as this fellow comes off to me, at least he is fighting the good fight? Every movement has to have a handful of creepy pale dudes making music videos in their basements, right?

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Summer is the season of guacamole. Well, it certainly feels like it, with all the barbecues and al-fresco parties serving up the great green dip. I mean, what says summer louder than a big bowl o’ guac? Nothin, that’s what. But as much as I love the creamy, satisfying goodness of guac, I also like to spice it up a bit sometimes. One addition I really love is lilikoi, also known as passionfruit, which is packed with vitamin C and A. When eaten alone, lilikoi is a bit too tart for most, but when added to drinks, dips and dressings, it’s fan-fucking-tastic. For those of you who don’t live in a place where passionfruit is literally growing on the side of the road, you can usually find it at an asian grocer or specialty market.

Behold, this kick-ass recipe for a tropical guacamole that will have you licking the bowl.

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Everyday I work harder at being mindful: enjoying the moment I am in instead of rushing ahead trying to get to what’s next. It’s not easy, but focusing on the task you’re doing, even if that task is simply walking the dog or sitting with your partner, helps to increase pleasure, enhance focus and productivity and make you happier overall. I mean, have you ever seen a miserable buddha? Probably not. Don’t worry, I’m not going to get hyper new-agey on you. Below are a handful of ways to be more mindful across several different aspects of life.

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I’ve written about high-tech sex before, but since then, the world has come a long way in terms of sexing up our smartphones.

Generally I have a “no-phones-in-bed” rule but maybe I might reconsider for a few of these…

Glassy Sex.

This Google Glass wearable tech let’s you see yourself having sex “through your partner’s eyes.” This is 99 percent always a bad idea, even if you and your partner look like this:

 These guys should totally be on BoyfriendTwin (whose name should probably be DoppelGangBangers) 

3nder.

I don’t know how to pronounce this, but the purpose for this app (brought to you by the Tinder and Grinder folks) is to allow you to find people to have a threesome with without having to poach experimental-looking singles at a bar with your boyfriend in tow. Not that I’ve done that ever.

Dickorate.

This app has actually recently been removed but I still want to talk about it anyway because it’s redickulous. This dick-dressing app let men take pics of their junk, make them bigger (obvi) and then add weird accessories, like sunglasses and little dick sweaters. They can then send the pics to their lover, who will undoubtably use them as blackmail later on. Here’s a true story: Nobody wants your dick pic. Ever. Also it reminds me of this hilarious video which will get suck in your head for days.

Sock-it.

Okay as someone who once had twelve room-mates, I actually kind of like this one. If playing “Big Papa” on repeat for 43 minutes didn’t make things clear enough, this app lets you alert people when you’re having sex so they leave you the f*ck alone.

Do you use any helpful sex apps? Would you use 3nder? Are you a little bummed Dickorate is no longer a thing?

Want more? Find me on Instagram and Twitter, and check out my book, The Lusty Vegan, available on Amazon.

*This post was originally written for iEatGrass.com.

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