What Are Your Top Tips for Vegan-On-Omni Relationships?

Hey, all. My bossaroo Ayinde over at iEatGrass.com and I are gearing up to announce a really exciting project. This project has been 2 years in the making! Before we unleash it, I am compiling some info to be featured in said soon-to-be-announced project, and I need help from you!

What I am asking is for any and all tips that you have found helpful in your relationship with an omnivore. For omnivores (do omnivores even read iEatGrass?) tell me what has been helpful in your relationship with a vegan.

If you want to help out (c’mon, you know you do) just leave your tip in the comment section, along with your first name–or a name you made up!–and your age.

Note that the best tips WILL be published, so if you want to remain anonymous and don’t feel like writing a funny nom de plume (Seymour Butts, 28), just write “anonymous.”

So, a basic example would be:

“Always keep separate pots and pans! – Jenny, vegan, 32.”
“Vegans like vegetables, so buy some to make yourself look good if they open the fridge.” – Garth, omnivore, 45.”
“Lots of eco-friendly vegan lube,” – anonymous, omnivore, 26.”

Thanks guys, I can’t wait to see what you come up with.

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6 Comments

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    CiCi
    February 28, 2014

    For ethical vegans, since it is a moral issue, I believe that an omni partner should be willing to keep a shared home vegan. Omni can do what they want outside that home. (If they aren’t, then they are way too selfish for my taste!)

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      CiCi
      March 9, 2014

      When I had a live-in omni partner, I was vegetarian. So, it wasn’t such a big change for him to eat vegetarian at home. I took on the cooking, and I would make very hearty meals that would be satisfying to him — pot pies, pasta dishes, soup & grilled cheese sandwiches, bread. He was built line a linebacker, so I gained like 10 pounds eating this way! (I’ve weighed the same my entire teenage/adult life except for that brief period.)

      He started trying to eat more healthy and save money while at work by avoiding fast food, and taking his lunch. On those occasions, he had his luncheon meat drawer in the refrigerator. (I did appreciate his interest in better health, so it was a trade off.) But, at least I wasn’t subjected to smelling meat cooking or anything.*

      I made good money then (*whimper*), so we fined dined out quite a bit. Wilmington had many great restaurants that were veg-friendly. Although, I did pay for these meals, I did not insist that he dine veg*n.

      Funny story though: One restaurant that we frequented often (Cafe Phoenix) always had weekly specials, in addition to their regular menu. There were usually 6 or 7 item specials, and always at least 1 vegetarian one. My omni friends would often order the vegetarian meal. Why? Because if was effing delicious, that’s why. Once, my mate ordered the vegetarian Southwest Strata, I believe it was called. It was like a savory bread pudding. He raved about it for weeks/months/years. Could still be his favorite meal to date.

      Overall, he never complained about the vegetarian house, and seemed very happy with it. (All other products — shampoos, soaps, etc. were vegan.) And, why shouldn’t he be? When outside the house, he did his thing; so there was plenty of balance for him. He also became a healthier person because of it. I don’t recall ever preaching or even discussing veg*nism with him. Just lead by example. (In addition to fine dining, he also was exposed to and got hooked on great wine and arthouse films, and a much greater appreciation for Nature. Yes, there are worse influences than me.)

      *Awhile after we had broken up, I stayed at his place for a few weeks, during a transition period. In exchange for my stay, I did all the cooking, as before. However, he decided to go on the Adkins Diet. Extremely limited veggie & fruit eating, and lots of meat eating. Pretty much ended by chef duties. He’d cook/fry meat, and the smell of that grease sitting around just disgusted me. Great motivator to move on.

      Now a vegan for 6+ years, I’m not sure that I’d be okay with meat in the house. It is bad enough having to do so for the obligate carnivores that share my home. Veganism is much more restrictive, so it is a greater compromise for the omni. Still, they always have the option to do as they like outside the house. Their decision to _not_ be a vegan isn’t a moral one. Big difference between merely health-related or environmental choices. [Perhaps a more parallel situation would be a relationship between a devote Christian and an atheist. Do you allow porn in the house? Something along those lines.]

      And, I really try not to be so polite these days, as a vegan, if _I_ am treating someone to lunch/dinner out. Seems a fair compromise on their part.

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    February 28, 2014

    Making a point to keep the comments you know would be offensive to an omnivore (after all you probably were one once, think about that time in your life) to yourself or your vegan friends. Nothing shuts someone off more (sexually and emotionally) than giving them a reason to proclaim that you, the vegan, are unmanageably smug and self-righteous. Let your delicious food, high energy, and content mindset do the talking!

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    March 2, 2014

    Set ground rules early on and reevaluate them from time to time. Instead of lashing out at my partner because the butter wasn’t washed off of my frying pan, etc., I catalogue things that are going on and bother me, and we discuss them later on. So much better than constantly nitpicking.

    Oh, and taco / pizza night. He can put cheese/meat on his tacos / half of the pizza and I can do what I want with mine. It still feels like we are sitting down to a meal together, but are able to customize it to our diet.

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    Teresa
    March 14, 2014

    I am vegan living with an omni. He respects me, and I respect him, even though I do not agree with his omni ways. I cook for myself, and he cooks for himself. Simple. I do wish he would become vegan, and maybe one day he will. The main thing is, he doesn’t roll his eyes when we are at a restaurant and order vegan. So I am not going to roll my eyes at him…..yet. Hahaha. My being vegan, and he being omni will not and has not caused an issue. I guess it depends on who you are with, and how tolerant they are, (and I am…)

    Teresa, vegan, 56 years young

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    Megan
    March 29, 2014

    I was omni when I met my vegan boyfriend, and when I moved in I completely agreed to cook only vegan in the kitchen. Honestly I ate vegetarian for days in a row before I moved in with him, and not necessarily because I wanted to avoid meat, I was just making healthier choices. No meat ever touches our pans, occasionally I will bring home my own milk or eggs and only I imbibe them. When we go out together more often than not I eat vegetarian/vegan and if I go out with a friend and eat a burger that’s my perogative. I actually like cooking vegan at home, and converting recipes from my friends into something that we can eat together. Not missing out on anything at all!

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