Ask Me Anything: Anal Sex and Lady Fur

I thought I would publish a couple of questions I received from a reader (ooh! A reader!) recently, as I felt they deserve addressing. This reader and I have a nice little banter going back and forth about a variety of things. She keeps me updated on her love-life and I dole out suggestions about sex toys. Here are a few of her most recent queries.

Q: I’m now dating my friends with benefits guy. He has mentioned anal sex a few times in passing. He made it out like everyone’s doing it. My best friend said she tried it and it was the worst feeling in the world. Any advice?

A: Ooooh anal sex, you are not my friend! Haha. Your mancandy is not right, not everybody is doing it, unless by everybody he means everybody on his RedTube que. Have you watched RedTube? Good stuff. I digress… I do have a few girlfriends who love anal sex. If you are interested in trying it, I would suggest having your friend start with a finger (or two) and see how you like it. If it hurts badly, well then anything larger will hurt even more! Make sure to lube the fingers up, and also make sure once they have been in your unholy hole they don’t go anywhere near your ladycave, or else you will probably get an infection. Yucko. One trick to avoid this is to have him use right hand for one hole, left hand for the other, so as to not get confused as to which finger went where.

Q: I know shaven is in style but I just trim. My boyfriend/friend with benefits hasn’t said anything. Are there any advantages to being shaven in the bedroom?

A: Shaving everything (on either sex) makes you look pre-pubescent. Hair is normal. That being said, trimming is considerate. Think of your sex bits as your bedroom. If you know someone  is coming over, you probably straighten up a little bit so you don’t look like a slob, and so your guest feels comfortable and wants to spend some quality time with their face buried in your, I mean….hanging out. But do whatever makes you feel comfy and confident. And don’t get your pube primping tips from porn stars…as a general rule, I don’t trust anyone who voluntarily bleaches their asshole.

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About the author  ⁄ Zoe

Zoe Eisenberg is an author, editor and filmmaker living on the big island of Hawaii. For more from Zoe, find her on Instagram @zoahu, Twitter @Sexytofublog, or check out her book, The Lusty Vegan, available on Amazon and wherever books are sold.

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