5 Ways to Release Your Inner Slut

courtesy of Roland Darby

Recently I discussed how I am a bit of a serial monogamist and don’t enjoy being single for long, as I am really pretty bad at having casual sex. Well, the sex is usually good, but I’m pretty terrible at keeping it casual. Anyway, if you are a rational person you might think that not liking casual sex is akin to not liking to feel slutty! Oh, how you are wrong!

I actually love feeling slutty. You see, most people don’t realize that slutty and “easy” are too very different things. Important note: There is nothing wrong with being “easy!” Sleep with whoever you want, whenever you want! No judgements. But easy and slutty are two different things. One who is easy is, well, bouncing into bed with ease. One who is slutty is uninhibited, a master of their bedroom prowess, playful, creative and confident. Someone who is easy can still insist on the missionary position with the lights off—they just may insist on doing it with the better portion of their college football team and/or the first girl that looks in their direction on any given Friday night. Again, non judgements! Sometimes going home with the first acceptable candidate is a terrific idea… But someone who is slutty may only have slept with a small handful of people, or just one person!—yet is into trying new things, showing off what they’ve got and looks at sex with the same sense of curiosity and gusto they would any other aspect of their life.

So you see, I get to feel super slutty whenever I want, within the comfort of my own relationship, and without the feeling like I may or may not be contracting Chlamydia!

Let me stop my incessant rambling… here are a handful of ways you can be a super slut without being super easy. Or you can be both slutty AND easy. More power to you.

5 ways to release your inner slut:

1. Be Open. A slut is up for just about anything and looks at new experiences as a challenge to be met. Whether you take direction from your partner or come up with your own fresh plan of action—propping a mirror at the foot of the bed for a racy visual, dirty talking in a false british accent (hot or annoying? You tell me!) or playing with a new toy—a slut is unpredictable and spontaneous.

2. Exude Confidence. Sluts don’t hide under the covers—they are comfortable in their skin. Hanging around in the nude or stomping about in lingerie and heels should make you feel super-saucy—even if you’re alone. And don’t forget dudes can be sluts too…maybe no heels, but put on whatever makes you feel hot. Suspenders for a little Magic Mike action? I donno, whatever gets you!

3. Get Verbal.
 Sluts aren’t only having sex, they are talking about it too. Whether that means amping up the dirty talk while in the bedroom, dishing about it with friends or telling your man(or woman!) friend what you want to do to them later—verbalizing your sexuality is a good thing. While sipping coffee at a cafe or having dinner with your friends/lesbian god-mother/parents, quietly telling your man what you plan on doing to him when you get home. Ooh, and I love drunk sexting.

4. Be Mistake-Free.
A true slut will never look at a past sexual experience as a mistake; it was something that seemed fun at the time, and you learned from it—or at least had a really awesome time. No regrets for you!

5. Love Being Slutty. Unlike someone who feels embarrassed or insecure about their sexuality, a slut is proud of who they are and what they want. They enjoy taking chances, exploring new outlets and being free to do what (and whom) they choose. For instance, a slut never feels obligated to perform any sexual favor… They either don’t do it, or they do it with a naughty grin on their face.  However, and this is key, a slut knows their limits. If there is something you truly are against doing—anal sex or that threesome with your college room mate your boyfriend keeps suggesting—put your slutty little foot down. No means no!

About the author  ⁄ Zoe

Zoe writes about food and sex on SexyTofu.com.

9 Comments

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    Izabella
    July 1, 2011

    Yay for sluts! I completely agree with you on this topic which is something I’ve kinda thought about but never really been able to pin-point before. Now I feel even more happy about my relationship and reallly excited about doing some naughty things very soon! Thanks xx

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    August 4, 2011

    There’s nothing wrong with being a slut depending on how you view it. If you call yourself a slut because of your actions, that’s fine – it’s crossing the line if an outsider uses it against you as an insult though. I personally love being called a slut by someone I adore, it’s a lovely word when used in a more positive light.

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      August 4, 2011

      Agreed! Slut is only a derragatory term if you (or someone else) make(s) it one..

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    mary
    December 11, 2011

    i am slut with my man, a man wants a lady in public but a slut in the bedroom. lets give a hand to us sluts go sluts go sluts i love you all

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      mary
      October 1, 2012

      i love being a slut you find yourself loving yourself and others more and get more respect for yourself

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    monica
    July 15, 2013

    slut in training….
    ….monica

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    Chase
    August 19, 2013

    In my heart of hearts, I truly am a slut. But I’ve had a hard time connecting with that for a few reasons, like not being able to do certain kinks, not having had sex with a lot of people (and not very often), and being a man. So, thank you for this post, which reminded me of which things really matter. I AM a slut!

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